I was touched the other day by an insight into the soul. I glanced across the supermarket car park and saw a woman with, I presumed, her family. They were loading shopping into the boot of their car. For a moment, she looked up and I saw that her face was disfigured. She must have had a cleft lip and an operation to correct it, when surgeons were perhaps less skilful then they are today. She was probably around forty years old.
For a moment I felt pity for this woman having to cope with disfigurement every day of her life: looks, pointed fingers, revulsion and embarrassment. How difficult to come to terms with people’s reactions! Inside she would be the same as you and me, but outside she would have to overcome the impact of her appearance, and force others to see the real person within and not the damaged exterior.
But then, I remembered that our souls choose our Earthly experiences. For whatever reason, this lady’s soul chose to experience disfigurement. I thought what a beautiful soul she must have to choose this life. What experiences must she have overcome? How powerful her soul must be to choose to find love in literally the face of disfigurement and disadvantage?
Each person, including myself in that moment, would be learning a lesson. A glimpse could produce an immediate effect as it did in me. I accept I felt revulsion and horror and the thought of living her life. That says a lot more about me that her.
I am thankful to say that I saw the beauty of her soul encased in her physical body. I wondered at the life she has led and the difficulties she has overcome. I presumed she must long ago have come to terms with her disfigurement, to find acceptance of herself, to become a whole person resilient against the looks and cruel thoughts of strangers.
Her soul shone brightly to me that morning. It touched my heart and taught me lessons on self-love. What a powerful soul! What an amazing gift!
Would I choose disfigurement for myself in another life? The thought scares me. I don’t feel brave enough. I am over-awed by this amazing woman and her beautiful soul and grateful for these insights.